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Gentleman, Just thought I'd run this past y'all. Recently got a girlfriend with 4 kids (1 Boy 4, 3 Girls 8 - 14) They are painfully ignorant on how to be safe in a shop or garage environment. (Had to spend Thanksgiving in the ER due to one of the girls tipping a motorcycle over on herself and piercing her thigh with the foot peg. Three layers of stitches later she's somewhat OK.) In your experience how do you get these guys up to speed without them killing themselves. If it wasn't for the lady being a really special lady and REAL easy to look at I wouldn't bother. (She rides dirt bikes, works on her own van, likes to travel, not afraid of anything, assists with projects and is pretty darn smart, just to name a few.) It is even difficult to get them to understand something as simple as taking their shoes off in the house and put them on to visit me in the garage. (Yep, already had one cut a foot on some metal scraps, due to bare feet.Still have to yell at her to put some shoes on when she comes into the shop.) How do you teach the "common sense" a great deal of us seem to have in this group? I never had more than some burned fingers (my fault) and got a small scald from a bad radiator cap. (Wrong place, wrong time!) I sure didn't need any trips to the ER before I learned. I have a great deal of patience, but it bothers me that they will get hurt. Only other thing is to lock them out of the garage, but you just know they'll find their way in when I'm not there and truly get hurt. Any ideas? Thanks Bart -- Bart D. Hull Tempe, Arizona Check http://www.inficad.com/~bdhull/engine.html for my Subaru Engine Conversion Check http://www.inficad.com/~bdhull/fuselage.html for Tango II I'm building. Remove -nospam to reply via email. |
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One time I was sharpening a carpet knife when the wheel caught it and flung it
right at my eyes. I was wearing a face shield which took the wicked curved blade and kept it from my eyes - barely. It destroyed the face shield. I hung that on the wall right by the light switch at the door and showed it to my kids a bunch of times. They got the idea. Many small 110V appliances have regular plugs. I bought a bunch of cheap luggage padlocks (tiny) off ebay, drilled out one lug on each plug and clicked a padlock into it. Kept little fingers from e.g. starting up the bench grinder. Point well taken. I got each of my kids their own work gloves and safety glasses. They loved 'em and got the idea. I kept teaching safety. They got yelled at for coming in the shop without safety glasses. My kids still love my shop. Here's a real recent shot of me with my daughter at a gas welding class. http://tinyisland.com/images/temp/Gr...GasWelding.jpg Be patient, and love 'em even when you're yelling at 'em. Treat them with respect and teach them with kindness. Don't bore them or lecture them, and make them little things they can put in their room. It won't happen overnight. P.S. My daughter is taking a minor in art metal in college now. GWE Bart D. Hull wrote: Gentleman, Just thought I'd run this past y'all. Recently got a girlfriend with 4 kids (1 Boy 4, 3 Girls 8 - 14) They are painfully ignorant on how to be safe in a shop or garage environment. (Had to spend Thanksgiving in the ER due to one of the girls tipping a motorcycle over on herself and piercing her thigh with the foot peg. Three layers of stitches later she's somewhat OK.) In your experience how do you get these guys up to speed without them killing themselves. If it wasn't for the lady being a really special lady and REAL easy to look at I wouldn't bother. (She rides dirt bikes, works on her own van, likes to travel, not afraid of anything, assists with projects and is pretty darn smart, just to name a few.) It is even difficult to get them to understand something as simple as taking their shoes off in the house and put them on to visit me in the garage. (Yep, already had one cut a foot on some metal scraps, due to bare feet.Still have to yell at her to put some shoes on when she comes into the shop.) How do you teach the "common sense" a great deal of us seem to have in this group? I never had more than some burned fingers (my fault) and got a small scald from a bad radiator cap. (Wrong place, wrong time!) I sure didn't need any trips to the ER before I learned. I have a great deal of patience, but it bothers me that they will get hurt. Only other thing is to lock them out of the garage, but you just know they'll find their way in when I'm not there and truly get hurt. Any ideas? Thanks Bart |
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Bart D. Hull writes:
In your experience how do you get these guys up to speed without them killing themselves. One principle is "never interrupt me when a machine is running; wait till it is off". Having a kid sneak into the shop and go "DAD!" behind my back when I am concentrating on a noisy, spinning machine is the biggest hazard I face. |
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"Bart D. Hull" wrote in message ... Gentleman, Just thought I'd run this past y'all. Recently got a girlfriend with 4 kids (1 Boy 4, 3 Girls 8 - 14) They are painfully ignorant on how to be safe in a shop or garage environment. (Had to spend Thanksgiving in the ER due to one of the girls tipping a motorcycle over on herself and piercing her thigh with the foot peg. Three layers of stitches later she's somewhat OK.) In your experience how do you get these guys up to speed without them killing themselves. If it wasn't for the lady being a really special lady and REAL easy to look at I wouldn't bother. (She rides dirt bikes, works on her own van, likes to travel, not afraid of anything, assists with projects and is pretty darn smart, just to name a few.) It is even difficult to get them to understand something as simple as taking their shoes off in the house and put them on to visit me in the garage. (Yep, already had one cut a foot on some metal scraps, due to bare feet.Still have to yell at her to put some shoes on when she comes into the shop.) How do you teach the "common sense" a great deal of us seem to have in this group? I never had more than some burned fingers (my fault) and got a small scald from a bad radiator cap. (Wrong place, wrong time!) I sure didn't need any trips to the ER before I learned. I have a great deal of patience, but it bothers me that they will get hurt. Only other thing is to lock them out of the garage, but you just know they'll find their way in when I'm not there and truly get hurt. Any ideas? Thanks Bart Mine were never allowed "in the shop" when work was going on. And when they were allowed in, they were escorted. I have always had garage and home shops, and owned a business shop for quite a few years. None of mine really had an interest in all the noisy smelly sparky fiery things that went on and pretty much stayed away. Yours might be different, but at that age cannot be expected to know what to do or not do. Just like they are situationally unaware of the hazards of being on a busy street. I think you are expecting too much from them. And if they don't wear shoes, just escort them out and tell them they're banned for the rest of the day, or a couple of days. And if they just don't mind you, you might want to ask yourself how it is going to be to have four of them around when they are teen agers .......... Steve |
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Steve B wrote: "Bart D. Hull" wrote in message ... Gentleman, Just thought I'd run this past y'all. Recently got a girlfriend with 4 kids (1 Boy 4, 3 Girls 8 - 14) They are painfully ignorant on how to be safe in a shop or garage environment. (Had to spend Thanksgiving in the ER due to one of the girls tipping a motorcycle over on herself and piercing her thigh with the foot peg. Three layers of stitches later she's somewhat OK.) The 4 year old is 4 years old - he will learn, given time and tuition. Whats more of a worry is the others - by now, they should have learnt some basic sense when around machinery - isnt their Mum a rider, works on stuff herself etc - if they havent, then something , for some reason, has gone haywire with their parenting. Whats their attitudes like to other things - the normal, everyday courtesies you could expect from a human being, even a young, immature one. Be careful what you are getting into. Andrew VK3BFA. (and yes, I am cynical - seen too many feral children....) |
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Welcome to the New Age. Only time and experience will teach these kids
anything. The survivors will have a chance to become Real Human Beans. Bugs |
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Your only option is to make sure they are welcome when you are there,
they MUST follow your rules (eg: safety glasses and shoes), and NOT welcome when you are not there. You will need to run in half speed mode when they are there in order to supervise them. Goes with the territory. Bart D. Hull wrote: Gentleman, Just thought I'd run this past y'all. Recently got a girlfriend with 4 kids (1 Boy 4, 3 Girls 8 - 14) They are painfully ignorant on how to be safe in a shop or garage environment. (Had to spend Thanksgiving in the ER due to one of the girls tipping a motorcycle over on herself and piercing her thigh with the foot peg. Three layers of stitches later she's somewhat OK.) In your experience how do you get these guys up to speed without them killing themselves. If it wasn't for the lady being a really special lady and REAL easy to look at I wouldn't bother. (She rides dirt bikes, works on her own van, likes to travel, not afraid of anything, assists with projects and is pretty darn smart, just to name a few.) It is even difficult to get them to understand something as simple as taking their shoes off in the house and put them on to visit me in the garage. (Yep, already had one cut a foot on some metal scraps, due to bare feet.Still have to yell at her to put some shoes on when she comes into the shop.) How do you teach the "common sense" a great deal of us seem to have in this group? I never had more than some burned fingers (my fault) and got a small scald from a bad radiator cap. (Wrong place, wrong time!) I sure didn't need any trips to the ER before I learned. I have a great deal of patience, but it bothers me that they will get hurt. Only other thing is to lock them out of the garage, but you just know they'll find their way in when I'm not there and truly get hurt. Any ideas? Thanks Bart |
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RoyJ wrote: Your only option is to make sure they are welcome when you are there, they MUST follow your rules (eg: safety glasses and shoes), and NOT welcome when you are not there. You will need to run in half speed mode when they are there in order to supervise them. Goes with the territory. I made them welcome at all times, whether I was there or not. The power tools were unplugged after use and the plugs are high on the wall. Neither of the boys ever showed any interest in using the power tools when I wasn't there, until they were old enough and experienced enough to do so. A lockable switch panel for all the wall/machine outlets might be good insurance, though. I used to worry about the exposed motors and belts on the table saw, band saw, planer and metal shaper, but not enough, I guess, to guard them as they really should have been. Kept pretty alert when using those with the kids around, though, and always warned them about the dangers each time. They always wore shoes, and goggles when any power stuff was run. I've still got memories of my older boy (26 now) sitting on the bed of the wood lathe, "driving" the tailstock handwheel while I was turning. Kept the lock on, of course, so he couldn't loosen it and let the blank fly out and hit me in the face. Which probably would have been a great safety lesson, but one that I was not willing to demonstrate. Let them use the hand tools. You - and they - will be surprised at how quickly they will pick up some skills. Praise them, but don't be afraid to point out areas where they could do better - as long as you also share your own mistakes with them. They will cut themselves, and they will bang their fingers, but they'll do the same in the back yard or athletic fields. John Martin |
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In article , Bart D. Hull says...
Just thought I'd run this past y'all. Recently got a girlfriend with 4 kids (1 Boy 4, 3 Girls 8 - 14) They are painfully ignorant on how to be safe in a shop or garage environment. (Had to spend Thanksgiving in the ER due to one of the girls tipping a motorcycle over on herself and piercing her thigh with the foot peg. Three layers of stitches later she's somewhat OK.) First rule: vehicles are not toys, and nobody is allowed to play in, on, or around them. This prevents the tip-over scene. Four is pretty young to be in the shop, but escorted 100% of the time. Basically for an inspection tour, do NOT expect to do any work while he's there. My daughter (nearly 17) knows that she can help herself to anything in the toolboxes in the shop, as long as it's used safely and comes back to where it belongs (not randomly located...) when she's done. Jim -- ================================================== please reply to: JRR(zero) at pkmfgvm4 (dot) vnet (dot) ibm (dot) com ================================================== |
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Four is pretty young to be in the shop, but escorted 100% of the time. Basically for an inspection tour, do NOT expect to do any work while he's there. I'll disagree with that. My oldest isnt' even two yet and he comes out to the shop with me all of the time. I do restrict myself to operations that I can do and monitor him as necessary. He is surpisingly well behaved while out there and understands when I tell him to not touch or do certain things. I can tell him to get stuff and put it back and he can do it if kept in simple enough terms. I don't expect him to get the 9/16" 3/8 drive deepwell, but if I say get me the screwdriver right there he can hand to me. If I tell him to put this in the bottom drawer of the tool box, he will. He has learned to listen when Dad say's "Dont' touch that". I dont' yell, but make a firm statement. He will look at me, I usually repeat the statement, and he just gets this understanding look on his face. I don't weld while he is around. I don't think he is old enough to understand to not look at the light. Of course he has been going out to the shop since before he could walk. Most times he just "works" at his bench and stays out of the way. He has a little Playschool bench and the accessory set of hand tools. He is usually quite content to stay over there and put in his bolts or screws or bang on things with his little hammer. |
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Bart D. Hull wrote:
Gentleman, Just thought I'd run this past y'all. Recently got a girlfriend with 4 kids (1 Boy 4, 3 Girls 8 - 14) They are painfully ignorant on how to be safe in a shop or garage environment. (Had to spend Thanksgiving in the ER due to one of the girls tipping a motorcycle over on herself and piercing her thigh with the foot peg. Three layers of stitches later she's somewhat OK.) SNIP I have a great deal of patience, but it bothers me that they will get hurt. Only other thing is to lock them out of the garage, but you just know they'll find their way in when I'm not there and truly get hurt. Any ideas? Thanks Bart Every kid is different. We have six, form 4 to 21. Some love to hang around in my shop, some are less interested. Some can be told not to touch something and won't, some need a bit (OK alot..) more direction and cannot be counted upon to be 100% in line, 100% of the time. I don't let little ones run power stuff, of course, but they all had some level of interest at various times. When I am working on something of theirs, they will be fascinated. When I am doing my own projects, they are less so. Lay out the shop rules, and stick to them. Make sure that YOU follow them too! (Yeah, my kids have caught me on that one...) If I am trying to "accomplish" something, I tell the kids to go do something else. that is one of the rules. When I am messing around and one of them wants to come out and hang around, I try my best to do stuff with them out there. It is some of the most enjoyable time I spend with my kids, and stuff they no doubt will remember and value. My kids are growing up around this stuff, apparently your girlfriends kids have not. I've never been in that situation, so i can't speak with any authority on that part. Mostly, I would guess kids are kids, all different, but all of them need attention, direction and assistance from the adults in their lives. Being in a position to provide that is both a huge responsability a huge privelage. Do it well, and it will repay you well. Not trying to sound preachey. Have I done this all well? i don't fully know. So far, our adult and older teens are decent, respectful hardworking kids. But in the big picture, the jury is still out.I'll let you know how I did when our 4 year old is an adult. Who knows, you may be one of the influences that helps to keep those four kids from becomming what another poster referred to as "feral" children. (thanks, Andrew,that is a great description! gonna use that one myself!) Besst of luck to you! Al A. |
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Al A. wrote:
Bart D. Hull wrote: Gentleman, Just thought I'd run this past y'all. Recently got a girlfriend with 4 kids (1 Boy 4, 3 Girls 8 - 14) They are painfully ignorant on how to be safe in a shop or garage environment. (Had to spend Thanksgiving in the ER due to one of the girls tipping a motorcycle over on herself and piercing her thigh with the foot peg. Three layers of stitches later she's somewhat OK.) SNIP I have a great deal of patience, but it bothers me that they will get hurt. Only other thing is to lock them out of the garage, but you just know they'll find their way in when I'm not there and truly get hurt. Any ideas? Thanks Bart Every kid is different. We have six, form 4 to 21. Some love to hang around in my shop, some are less interested. Some can be told not to touch something and won't, some need a bit (OK alot..) more direction and cannot be counted upon to be 100% in line, 100% of the time. I don't let little ones run power stuff, of course, but they all had some level of interest at various times. When I am working on something of theirs, they will be fascinated. When I am doing my own projects, they are less so. Lay out the shop rules, and stick to them. Make sure that YOU follow them too! (Yeah, my kids have caught me on that one...) If I am trying to "accomplish" something, I tell the kids to go do something else. that is one of the rules. When I am messing around and one of them wants to come out and hang around, I try my best to do stuff with them out there. It is some of the most enjoyable time I spend with my kids, and stuff they no doubt will remember and value. My kids are growing up around this stuff, apparently your girlfriends kids have not. I've never been in that situation, so i can't speak with any authority on that part. Mostly, I would guess kids are kids, all different, but all of them need attention, direction and assistance from the adults in their lives. Being in a position to provide that is both a huge responsability a huge privelage. Do it well, and it will repay you well. Not trying to sound preachey. Have I done this all well? i don't fully know. So far, our adult and older teens are decent, respectful hardworking kids. But in the big picture, the jury is still out.I'll let you know how I did when our 4 year old is an adult. Who knows, you may be one of the influences that helps to keep those four kids from becomming what another poster referred to as "feral" children. (thanks, Andrew,that is a great description! gonna use that one myself!) Besst of luck to you! Al A. Kinda says something about the relative age of posters in this group when this poster is 26 and the top of the listing of "Kids" in the shop is 21 |
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Bart D. Hull wrote:
Gentleman, Just thought I'd run this past y'all. Recently got a girlfriend with 4 kids (1 Boy 4, 3 Girls 8 - 14) They are painfully ignorant on how to be safe in a shop or garage environment. (Had to spend Thanksgiving in the ER due to one of the girls tipping a motorcycle over on herself and piercing her thigh with the foot peg. Three layers of stitches later she's somewhat OK.) don't touch any shiny parts of the motorcycle. they are hot. anytime you want on come ask me. In your experience how do you get these guys up to speed without them killing themselves. how did we get to here without killing ourselves? i dunno about the rest of you but i have done some pretty stupid stuff. It is even difficult to get them to understand something as simple as taking their shoes off in the house and put them on to visit me in the garage. (Yep, already had one cut a foot on some metal scraps, due to bare feet.Still have to yell at her to put some shoes on when she comes into the shop.) well thats a good way to learn. not deadly or permanant. How do you teach the "common sense" a great deal of us seem to have in this group? I never had more than some burned fingers (my fault) and got a small scald from a bad radiator cap. (Wrong place, wrong time!) I sure didn't need any trips to the ER before I learned. I have a great deal of patience, but it bothers me that they will get hurt. Only other thing is to lock them out of the garage, but you just know they'll find their way in when I'm not there and truly get hurt. wellllllll. my 6 year old has her own safety glasses, chair, and is allowed down when ever she wants (ask first). and we will do things like cut open a master lock/make a golf tee for grandpa/ paint the new shelf......always with me there watching and giving advice (not all of it safety). i make sure i involve her in the whole project including the saftey. probably her favorite was the time she ran the log splitter (i was very carefull of my hands and very explicit on when she could start it). laz |
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If you're concerned for they're safety, make sure you tell them that. When
an adult yells at a kid, the kid usually thinks the adult doesn't like the kid. It's the old, hate the sin, not the sinner. Tell the kids it's their behavior that you don't like, not them. Kids are kids, they learn faster when they make mistakes. Good luck, it's not easy going from no kids to 4 just like that. "Bart D. Hull" wrote in message ... Gentleman, Just thought I'd run this past y'all. Recently got a girlfriend with 4 kids (1 Boy 4, 3 Girls 8 - 14) They are painfully ignorant on how to be safe in a shop or garage environment. (Had to spend Thanksgiving in the ER due to one of the girls tipping a motorcycle over on herself and piercing her thigh with the foot peg. Three layers of stitches later she's somewhat OK.) In your experience how do you get these guys up to speed without them killing themselves. If it wasn't for the lady being a really special lady and REAL easy to look at I wouldn't bother. (She rides dirt bikes, works on her own van, likes to travel, not afraid of anything, assists with projects and is pretty darn smart, just to name a few.) It is even difficult to get them to understand something as simple as taking their shoes off in the house and put them on to visit me in the garage. (Yep, already had one cut a foot on some metal scraps, due to bare feet.Still have to yell at her to put some shoes on when she comes into the shop.) How do you teach the "common sense" a great deal of us seem to have in this group? I never had more than some burned fingers (my fault) and got a small scald from a bad radiator cap. (Wrong place, wrong time!) I sure didn't need any trips to the ER before I learned. I have a great deal of patience, but it bothers me that they will get hurt. Only other thing is to lock them out of the garage, but you just know they'll find their way in when I'm not there and truly get hurt. Any ideas? Thanks Bart -- Bart D. Hull Tempe, Arizona Check http://www.inficad.com/~bdhull/engine.html for my Subaru Engine Conversion Check http://www.inficad.com/~bdhull/fuselage.html for Tango II I'm building. Remove -nospam to reply via email. |
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Bart D. Hull wrote:
Gentleman, Just thought I'd run this past y'all. Recently got a girlfriend with 4 kids (1 Boy 4, 3 Girls 8 - 14) They are painfully ignorant on how to be safe in a shop or garage environment. (Had to spend Thanksgiving in the ER due to one of the girls tipping a motorcycle over on herself and piercing her thigh with the foot peg. Three layers of stitches later she's somewhat OK.) I think you are going to have to watch that one. She may be "accident prone". There are people like that, a kind of failure to think about consequences. My oldest boy seems like the rowdiest wild man you'd ever find, but he MUST have that thinking about "what happens if I push here" or he'd be dead by now. What I'm saying is if I saw something really heavy, balanced on three little points pretty close together, I would NEVER lean on the thing! And, maybe an experienced rider would never even THINK something like this could happen, so you wouldn't think to warn them of the hazard. In your experience how do you get these guys up to speed without them killing themselves. If it wasn't for the lady being a really special lady and REAL easy to look at I wouldn't bother. (She rides dirt bikes, works on her own van, likes to travel, not afraid of anything, assists with projects and is pretty darn smart, just to name a few.) Women like this are SUCH a rare find, you'll have to adapt. We've just been lucky, here, that there haven't been any such catastrophes befalling people. EVERYONE in our house has gotten a metal chip in their foot at one time or another. I am pretty good at digging them out with an Xacto knife, but sometimes, I just don't have the "guts" to cut into my own child's flesh with what is essentially a surgeon's scalpel, and somebody has to go to the doctor or ER to have it dug out. We have also gotten a couple of more serious cuts, and not all foreign object in the foot cases have been metal chips - glass, etc. from the kitchen, too. So, maybe, because **I"M** the type that always thinks about this sort of stuff, I really haven't had to warn the kids about a whole lot of dangers, they they just seem to have avoided the most serious stuff, somehow, as if by magic. It is even difficult to get them to understand something as simple as taking their shoes off in the house and put them on to visit me in the garage. (Yep, already had one cut a foot on some metal scraps, due to bare feet.Still have to yell at her to put some shoes on when she comes into the shop.) My WIFE knows this one real well, and NEVER comes more than 6" into the shop with bare feet. The kids are still learning. How do you teach the "common sense" a great deal of us seem to have in this group? I never had more than some burned fingers (my fault) and got a small scald from a bad radiator cap. (Wrong place, wrong time!) I sure didn't need any trips to the ER before I learned. When I think of all the hazards I have around here (poisons, torches, power tools, sharp hand tools, stuff that can fall over, etc.) it seems a miracle there hasn't been worse. On the other hand, the accident you just went through is both a wake-up call and probably the worst that you WILL have to go through (I hope!) Jon |
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Interesting reading all of this.
I know - we were different kids when we grew up - I'm concerned we coddle to much. When I was 4, I had a 1/4" hand drill (electric), a small drill press, hand saw 2/3 size (dad still has that one - he likes the shorter saw for some things!) (He won't let it go). A vice - gave that to my son - mounted it on his bench. Hammers, screwdrivers - many of these I have now. The prize (to me) was the keyhole blade that the plummer threw away. It was bent on the nose. I copied the handle of my dads and squeezed the blade almost straight - then Dad finished. I have the saw and it has been sharpened and set several times. It is a fine tool steel. What I have seen is not only caution, but keeping out. I say bring them in - teach them the rules and protect them with glasses like the ones you wear - right!! - and ear plugs you can buy a bucket of them from MSC or other - then they are cheap! - Make them available to the older kids for their pockets - going to a concert - that worked! My bucket of plugs is lower - but I figure football games are in play to 50 or 60's now for them. Games or music might take them out yet. What set back my son - he was young in high school at the time - turning wood spindles - he was checked out - and was turning a small bowl (not fully checked out) while I was in France for a month. He was hit in the face mask with a chunk of wood and didn't ever go back. It was to long in the recovery - without me - Maybe someday when he gets a house. So simply - if something happens - respond and get them back into doing tasks soon. Back on the horse after a buck - that sense. Martin Martin Eastburn @ home at Lions' Lair with our computer lionslair at consolidated dot net NRA LOH & Endowment Member NRA Second Amendment Task Force Charter Founder Bart D. Hull wrote: Gentleman, Just thought I'd run this past y'all. Recently got a girlfriend with 4 kids (1 Boy 4, 3 Girls 8 - 14) They are painfully ignorant on how to be safe in a shop or garage environment. (Had to spend Thanksgiving in the ER due to one of the girls tipping a motorcycle over on herself and piercing her thigh with the foot peg. Three layers of stitches later she's somewhat OK.) In your experience how do you get these guys up to speed without them killing themselves. If it wasn't for the lady being a really special lady and REAL easy to look at I wouldn't bother. (She rides dirt bikes, works on her own van, likes to travel, not afraid of anything, assists with projects and is pretty darn smart, just to name a few.) It is even difficult to get them to understand something as simple as taking their shoes off in the house and put them on to visit me in the garage. (Yep, already had one cut a foot on some metal scraps, due to bare feet.Still have to yell at her to put some shoes on when she comes into the shop.) How do you teach the "common sense" a great deal of us seem to have in this group? I never had more than some burned fingers (my fault) and got a small scald from a bad radiator cap. (Wrong place, wrong time!) I sure didn't need any trips to the ER before I learned. I have a great deal of patience, but it bothers me that they will get hurt. Only other thing is to lock them out of the garage, but you just know they'll find their way in when I'm not there and truly get hurt. Any ideas? Thanks Bart ----== Posted via Newsfeeds.Com - Unlimited-Unrestricted-Secure Usenet News==---- http://www.newsfeeds.com The #1 Newsgroup Service in the World! 120,000+ Newsgroups ----= East and West-Coast Server Farms - Total Privacy via Encryption =---- |
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On Sun, 29 Jan 2006 22:35:11 -0700, "Bart D. Hull"
wrote: Gentleman, Just thought I'd run this past y'all. Recently got a girlfriend with 4 kids (1 Boy 4, 3 Girls 8 - 14) They are painfully ignorant on how to be safe in a shop or garage environment. (Had to spend Thanksgiving in the ER due to one of the girls tipping a motorcycle over on herself and piercing her thigh with the foot peg. Three layers of stitches later she's somewhat OK.) In your experience how do you get these guys up to speed without them killing themselves. Never get between mama bear and her cubs. This applies doubly so for a human female and her brood. In this case, you are the outsider looking in, and always will be. What you see is what you get with this package deal. If it wasn't for the lady being a really special lady and REAL easy to look at I wouldn't bother. (She rides dirt bikes, works on her own van, likes to travel, not afraid of anything, assists with projects and is pretty darn smart, just to name a few.) Tell us about her, say, three years from now. Meanwhile, you might want to have a chat with her ex to learn the reasons why he changed his mind about her -- sooner, rather than later, when he shows up to have tea with his kids -- he comes with the package deal also. If he is no longer among the living, you would be wise to hire a private investigator and independently confirm the reasons for his demise. Unless this lady has a history of being involved in male oriented activities since the days when she was a teenager, you may yet learn the extent to which a woman will go to get a man (or more than one man) -- some collect them like trophies. Make sure you are the trapper, not the trapped. It is even difficult to get them to understand something as simple as taking their shoes off in the house and put them on to visit me in the garage. (Yep, already had one cut a foot on some metal scraps, due to bare feet.Still have to yell at her to put some shoes on when she comes into the shop.) How do you teach the "common sense" a great deal of us seem to have in this group? I never had more than some burned fingers (my fault) and got a small scald from a bad radiator cap. (Wrong place, wrong time!) I sure didn't need any trips to the ER before I learned. I have a great deal of patience, but it bothers me that they will get hurt. Only other thing is to lock them out of the garage, but you just know they'll find their way in when I'm not there and truly get hurt. Any ideas? Get used to it. This will be your reality if you continue with the relationship. Those kids are not yours to parent or to discipline. Only their owner is permitted to perform such functions and she will eventually make this very clear to you. And one more tip: Make sure you get a prenuptial agreement if things get serious. If the relationship goes sour, you will have enough emotional problems to deal with, without having to face financial ruin. Thanks Bart -- Bart D. Hull Tempe, Arizona Check http://www.inficad.com/~bdhull/engine.html for my Subaru Engine Conversion Check http://www.inficad.com/~bdhull/fuselage.html for Tango II I'm building. Remove -nospam to reply via email. |
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On Sun, 29 Jan 2006 22:35:11 -0700, "Bart D. Hull"
wrote: I have a great deal of patience, but it bothers me that they will get hurt. Only other thing is to lock them out of the garage, but you just know they'll find their way in when I'm not there and truly get hurt. Any ideas? Thanks Bart I don't have much experience in this kind of situation, but I haven't seen this specific topic mentioned: You need to talk with their mother over how both of you are going to deal with the situation. On one hand, you're not their father. Trying to make them do what you say will very likely be met with rebellion. On the other hand, they do need someone to teach them safety and common sense, which I'm surprised about, considering their mother's occupations. But you need to discuss with her how you're allowed to handle the kids. She may think it's a great idea. In that case you can both discuss the rules and they'll be more likely to listen if they're coming down from both of you, rather than just you. On the other hand, she may be the type to take their side all the time. It's hard to take someone else's word over your kids, and any parent will have clouded judgement in this respect. But if she's let them go this far without learning sense then she may very well be the type to go 'How /dare/ you talk to my kids that way!?' and let them do whatever they want. If this is the situation you're in, you may want to rethink the relationship. It may not be worth the benefits once she finds one of the kids wrapped in the lathe gears and blames you for it. --- http://www.FenrirOnline.com Computer services, custom metal etching, arts, crafts, and much more. |
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On Sun, 29 Jan 2006 22:35:11 -0700, "Bart D. Hull"
wrote: Gentleman, Just thought I'd run this past y'all. Recently got a girlfriend with 4 kids (1 Boy 4, 3 Girls 8 - 14) They are painfully ignorant on how to be safe in a shop or garage environment. (Had to spend Thanksgiving in the ER due to one of the girls tipping a motorcycle over on herself and piercing her thigh with the foot peg. Three layers of stitches later she's somewhat OK.) In your experience how do you get these guys up to speed without them killing themselves. If it wasn't for the lady being a really special lady and REAL easy to look at I wouldn't bother. (She rides dirt bikes, works on her own van, likes to travel, not afraid of anything, assists with projects and is pretty darn smart, just to name a few.) It is even difficult to get them to understand something as simple as taking their shoes off in the house and put them on to visit me in the garage. (Yep, already had one cut a foot on some metal scraps, due to bare feet.Still have to yell at her to put some shoes on when she comes into the shop.) How do you teach the "common sense" a great deal of us seem to have in this group? I never had more than some burned fingers (my fault) and got a small scald from a bad radiator cap. (Wrong place, wrong time!) I sure didn't need any trips to the ER before I learned. I have a great deal of patience, but it bothers me that they will get hurt. Only other thing is to lock them out of the garage, but you just know they'll find their way in when I'm not there and truly get hurt. Any ideas? Thanks Bart Kinda reminds me of "Jurassic Park" -- where the kids didn't mind and the parents seemed to accept that. I can't watch that movie without wanting to swat both the parents and the kids -- in that order. Kids don't always mind, they're not robots. But they *must* learn that there are times when instant total compliance is obligatory and not negotiable. This is for safety situations. They should not be allowed in the shop, ever, until they learn that. "Her" kids may need some remedial training. She's going to have to do most of that because "she's the mom", you're the newguy. She needs to understand that it's for their safety, it isn't just you peeing on trees and being bull of the woods. My kids got that training as soon as they could understand it. They got it from occasional fire drills, etc, which we tried to make as fun as possible with good performance amply rewarded. One night we really did have a fire. Well, our neighbor did. I woke up when I could feel the heat thru the bedroom outside wall! The adjacent garage was fully ablaze. I think our youngest was about 3 at the time. When I woke them up and calmly told them we all must walk out the front door right now, grab a blanket and a bear and get goin', there was zero hesitation -- and it was cold out! Man, I was so proud of them I coulda -- well, you know. When they got outside, they could instantly see why we'd evacuated. My house wasn't damaged because the FD got there a couple of minutes later and hosed down my house, but that garage was burnt to the ground. It could have been a very different story in the space of a couple of minutes. Later got divorced, later yet hooked up with present wife. Her kids were clueless about shop safety, but they'd been raised to respect Mom so learning some new safety stuff from me was no problem for them. My two sons, well one mine and one hers, both used my hand tools at will and such power tools as they were checked out on. I never had any problems at all with misplaced tools. Never. My son did leave a screwdriver out in the yard once when he was fairly young, maybe about 8. I bought him a really crummy screwdriver and told him he could not use mine anymore, he'd have to use his own. He said, "but Dad, this is a really crummy screwdriver!" "Yes, it is. Good tools are reserved for those that care for them properly." I made that stick for about two months. That's all it took. Kids and dogs should never ever be yelled at. If they are, then they soon assume that you're not serious unless you're yelling. They respond best to consistent (relentless?) calm, gentle (and yes, loving) firmness. Disobedience must have an appropriate penalty, but yelling ain't it. Teaching, encouraging, recognizing and rewarding good behavior works even better. Note: ya gotta lead from in front: teach by example. "Do as I say, not as I do" flat doesn't work. |
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Don Foreman wrote: Kids and dogs should never ever be yelled at. If they are, then they soon assume that you're not serious unless you're yelling. They respond best to consistent (relentless?) calm, gentle (and yes, loving) firmness. Disobedience must have an appropriate penalty, but yelling ain't it. Teaching, encouraging, recognizing and rewarding good behavior works even better. Note: ya gotta lead from in front: teach by example. "Do as I say, not as I do" flat doesn't work. Don, thats beautifully put, and makes sense. We are raising a grandkid who had it pretty rough - will try to keep in mind what you say. Have no problem with the dog - hadnt realised you need to treat the kids the same way! But must admit - its the RELENTLESS part that gets you down - sometimes, parenting skills just go out the window and you just YELL Andrew VK3BFA. |
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However - let one of the dogs or Kids get in the real world and
have someone yell at them - they fall apart or go nuts. There is a time and a place, but children need to learn raised voices are for important times - either pay attention or do as told ... Children must prepare for the world outside. Parental arguments within reason must be around the children - and they need to know that blood isn't drawn and parents make up after the top is blown. Life. Not as many will trash their marriage if life is shown with love in the first place. If we have a quiet calm life for them always expect failure modes. Dogs behave the same way - They want your love and they understand when they are bad. They push boarders as they grow. Martin Martin Eastburn @ home at Lions' Lair with our computer lionslair at consolidated dot net NRA LOH & Endowment Member NRA Second Amendment Task Force Charter Founder Andrew VK3BFA wrote: Don Foreman wrote: Kids and dogs should never ever be yelled at. If they are, then they soon assume that you're not serious unless you're yelling. They respond best to consistent (relentless?) calm, gentle (and yes, loving) firmness. Disobedience must have an appropriate penalty, but yelling ain't it. Teaching, encouraging, recognizing and rewarding good behavior works even better. Note: ya gotta lead from in front: teach by example. "Do as I say, not as I do" flat doesn't work. Don, thats beautifully put, and makes sense. We are raising a grandkid who had it pretty rough - will try to keep in mind what you say. Have no problem with the dog - hadnt realised you need to treat the kids the same way! But must admit - its the RELENTLESS part that gets you down - sometimes, parenting skills just go out the window and you just YELL Andrew VK3BFA. ----== Posted via Newsfeeds.Com - Unlimited-Unrestricted-Secure Usenet News==---- http://www.newsfeeds.com The #1 Newsgroup Service in the World! 120,000+ Newsgroups ----= East and West-Coast Server Farms - Total Privacy via Encryption =---- |
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On Fri, 03 Feb 2006 21:11:14 -0600, "Martin H. Eastburn"
wrote: However - let one of the dogs or Kids get in the real world and have someone yell at them - they fall apart or go nuts. There is a time and a place, but children need to learn raised voices are for important times - either pay attention or do as told ... I strongly disagree. A strong voice is needed for important times, and it must be clearly audible but need not be overly loud. Tone is more important and effective than volume. A strong command voice need not be loud, and in fact it is more effective if it is not. Discipline and control (or lack of same) on the part of the speaker is instantly sensed by those from whom instant unquestioning obedience is expected. If response is fear-based it'll happen short term, but that's not an acceptable way to deal with children or a dog I'd care to have as a companion. I'd rather have children and dogs that can deal with fear without being governed by it. Leadership is strongly based on earned trust and respect. If your children are worth a **** with any spunk at all, you must earn their respect as you must with any command. You must do it consistently, every day. That's the only way that works. The only way to lead is from in front, "follow me". Dogs and kids acutely sense when the adult is out of control. Adolescent girls play that card with uncanny skill. If she can **** you off enough to yell or be about ready to deck her, she wins long term. Girls you love can try you sorely because they know which buttons to push. Been there, done that. There is nothing more effective than quiet calm fury. Set wide walls so there is room for exploration -- but make hitting the walls hurt noticably. How noticibly depends on the kid. Some kids are incredibly tough. I had a couple like that. Blow curfew for third time, the doors are locked go sleep in yer car at 30 below. Tough kids cope, and learn from the experience. Perhaps my bio kids take after their mother? My kids, biological and otherwise, were absolutely not intimidated by loud voices. They heard that crap in the schoolyard and they quickly learned that volume often implies weak bluff rather than resolute strength. My son once quietly took abuse from a bully for three weeks, then decided the hell with the consequences and coldcocked him, broke his jaw. Training I'd offered to him had been that it's always best to avoid a fight, but if a fight is necessary it should get done as quickly as possible as in 15 seconds or less. Boxing and wrestling are sports, real fights are not sport but matters to be deal with as expediently as possible. You can imagine what I heard from the principal and the bully's parents about that! I thought Kev did just right. He'd suffered patiently long enough and then acted decisively and appropriately. I told him so and I backed that up with support. It all got sorted out with little more ado. Might not have worked out so smoothly in California, all the lawyers there and all, but we live in Minnesota. Kids don't need to hear loud voices to learn not to spook from loud voices. Better to teach them to recognize real strength vs noise. |
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On Sat, 04 Feb 2006 01:59:37 -0600, with neither quill nor qualm, Don
Foreman quickly quoth: On Fri, 03 Feb 2006 21:11:14 -0600, "Martin H. Eastburn" wrote: However - let one of the dogs or Kids get in the real world and have someone yell at them - they fall apart or go nuts. There is a time and a place, but children need to learn raised voices are for important times - either pay attention or do as told ... I strongly disagree. A strong voice is needed for important times, and it must be clearly audible but need not be overly loud. Tone is more important and effective than volume. A strong command voice need not be loud, and in fact it is more effective if it is not. Discipline and control (or lack of same) on the part of the speaker is instantly sensed by those from whom instant unquestioning obedience is expected. If response is fear-based it'll happen short term, but that's not an acceptable way to deal with children or a dog I'd care to have as a companion. I'd rather have children and dogs that can deal with fear without being governed by it. Leadership is strongly based on earned trust and respect. If your children are worth a **** with any spunk at all, you must earn their respect as you must with any command. You must do it consistently, every day. That's the only way that works. The only way to lead is from in front, "follow me". Dogs and kids acutely sense when the adult is out of control. Adolescent girls play that card with uncanny skill. If she can **** you off enough to yell or be about ready to deck her, she wins long term. Girls you love can try you sorely because they know which buttons to push. Been there, done that. There is nothing more effective than quiet calm fury. Set wide walls so there is room for exploration -- but make hitting the walls hurt noticably. How noticibly depends on the kid. Some kids are incredibly tough. I had a couple like that. Blow curfew for third time, the doors are locked go sleep in yer car at 30 below. Tough kids cope, and learn from the experience. That was an excellent read, Don. Now to get that kind of thinking into our totally -hosed- educational system... Perhaps my bio kids take after their mother? g My kids, biological and otherwise, were absolutely not intimidated by loud voices. They heard that crap in the schoolyard and they quickly learned that volume often implies weak bluff rather than resolute strength. My son once quietly took abuse from a bully for three weeks, then decided the hell with the consequences and coldcocked him, broke his jaw. Training I'd offered to him had been that it's always best to avoid a fight, but if a fight is necessary it should get done as quickly as possible as in 15 seconds or less. Boxing and wrestling are sports, real fights are not sport but matters to be deal with as expediently as possible. I took my bully down without a fight using the passive/aggressive approach. When I finally stood up to the jerk, I strode right up to him, dangled my arms straight down at my side and yelled (so everyone around could hear me and so it would embarrass him) "OK, if you're going to hit me, HIT ME! Otherwise, just leave me the hell alone." He backed down and never bothered me again. (IOW, I got lucky. You can imagine what I heard from the principal and the bully's parents about that! I thought Kev did just right. He'd suffered patiently long enough and then acted decisively and appropriately. I told him so and I backed that up with support. It all got sorted out with little more ado. Might not have worked out so smoothly in California, all the lawyers there and all, but we live in Minnesota. Kids don't need to hear loud voices to learn not to spook from loud voices. Better to teach them to recognize real strength vs noise. Agreed! I'll bet his bully thought twice about bullying people from that point on, eh? bseg --------------------------------------------------- I drive way too fast to worry about my cholesterol. --------------------------------------------------- http://www.diversify.com Refreshing Graphic Design |
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In article , Don Foreman says...
There is nothing more effective than quiet calm fury. This is a general truth, not just with kids. For some reason my wife does this unusually well. I call it "Thinly Veiled Rage" because that's how it comes across. When she's really angry at somebody, but trying not to lose her temper, that's what comes across - and oddly folks back away from that, more than they do from the real anger. Set wide walls so there is room for exploration -- but make hitting the walls hurt noticably. How noticibly depends on the kid. Some kids are incredibly tough. I had a couple like that. Blow curfew for third time, the doors are locked go sleep in yer car at 30 below. Tough kids cope, and learn from the experience. I could try that I suppose if I ever had to - but seeing as I taught her to pick locks, it might not last long. g Jim -- ================================================== please reply to: JRR(zero) at pkmfgvm4 (dot) vnet (dot) ibm (dot) com ================================================== |
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First off let me give some background if I may. As a youngster I was
Hell on wheels but wasn't Clumsy or Stupid nor did I have a Death wish. As a matter of fact as I approach the age of Fifty in October almost everyone that knows me still tells me regularly to "Be MORE careful , You could have been Killed" or "You crazy Ba__urd its amazing you lived this Long" or how about this one "Just try to Act and Be more responsible , If not for your own safety , then how about the safety of those around you" !! My older Brother and I have owned Hendrix Machine and Tool , Inc. , a Small family Job Shop ( mostly very short run Aerospace and Aircraft parts ) in Santa Maria , California since August 1977. I still have all my extremities and I dont ave Black lung , Eymphasema , Cancer , Nor do I have or will I EVER Develop an Overian Cyst from breathing grinding dust and Coolant 8 to 12 hours a day or Drinking too much Hard Liquor and Carousing with lots of loose women or Smoking Bong hits of Marijuana ( I think I may have Glucoma) Minutes before jumping off a 3000 foot cliff wearing a small parachute doing whats known as FACE DIVING. My Opinion is this - ( These are not ASSUMPTION'S they are FACT based on OBSERVATIONS and EXPERIANCES during near on 50 years of Living and doing just about any and every thing I ever wanted to try.) Humans have only a Few things they can not be taught or learned, EVER ! However they can be taught ABOUT them , How they relate to the Human condition , How their actions effect others and themselves , What these God given and unlearnable / unchangeable traits are , How they can be used or mis-used, etc. , etc..... These Few things AND How we View and Deal with them is all within are Mind and Hearts and the BASIC Rules born there can never be CHANGED by teaching , punishing or by ignorance ! The FEW things that are Born Within a 1. Knowledge of Moral Rights and Wrongs ( from day 1 we endure feelings of Guilt , Shame , Sympathy , Love , Hate , Joy , Helpless and Hopelessness , Curiosity , Confusion , Despair and Pride and our mind and bodys reaction to these has everything to do with how we deal and conduct ourselves with other Humans ! ). 2. Comman Sense ( a 6 month old knows not to purposely stuff his or hers hand into or thru a turning Fan Blade or Propeller just as they knew not to eat the nieghbors Cat. Some how we just get this feeling that something is JUST NOT RIGHT.). 3. A NEED of Purpose ( we see the world as our enviornment to be Nutured , Built upon , Shaped , Molded ,Conquered , Improved and Understood ) You must understand that in reality people get hurt and killed everyday and we are POWERLESS over it. So hey , Give all them kids one hand tool from within your shop and point them out the door and into the nieghborhood with the One Condition that they cannot come back without some kind of proof of actually use of the Tool for or on something ( preferably the way the Tool was intended to be used and for the side of Good not Evil ) or without the hand tool issued to them. Although COMMON SENSE cannot be taught , EARNED PERSONAL RESPECT and RESPECT for others CAN be . And in finishing I MUST add , that not only were we all young once and survived it ( some better than others OBVIOUSLY ) , But that without the Proper RESPECT having been bestown by each one of us upon all known TOOLs and every piece of SHOP EQUIPMENT in our Lives , we would've all suffered or be suffering Massive and QUICK loss of LIFE , LIMB and / or Blood. JUST ONE MANS VIEW ! THANKS FOR LISTENING ! Robert G. Hendrix American Outlaw Goods 'n' Services Santa Maria , Ca. , 93458 U.S.A. , North American Landmass |
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