I've recently finished building a mission style desk out of
quartersawn white oak and am ready to stain/finish it. After the 100s
of hours it took to complete, the last thing I want is to screw up
this step, and I've never been particularly good at this last step, so
I'm seeking advice.

I'd like to have a deep brown color with a fairly durable finish that
is somewhat resistant to abuse, as my kids will likely work at the
desk from time to time as well. What I'm hoping that people can
provide is specific recommendations for color/brand of finishes that
have worked for them, as well as any tips on application technique
that I should (or shouldn't) use. I know there's information on these
things elsewhere, and I've read a good bit on it, but there are also
many contradictions so I'm hoping to learn from someone who has had
firsthand success. Of course, I'll be testing whatever people
recommend on scrap pieces before the final attempt.

Thanks in advance for any advice!