I'm sorry - but have to standby my original comments.

And you need to also understand that this is a newsgroup which involves
complete strangers and if you want a "real" answer then you need to add ALL
supporting facts - otherwise those responding will HAVE to make assumptions.

1) the original poster could have said in his original post that he and his
neighbor have a fabulous relationship where they are at each other's homes
every day

2) he could have said that they have a very strained relationship but manage
to get along

3) he could have said they don't get along at all

So -- basically -- if one wants "realistic" answers to a situation without
those strangers responding based on assumptions, one needs to include all
the facts.


"bryanska" wrote in message
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Lady,

Please see my above post. The responses were full of assumptions about
this guy's intentions, and some of them contained personal barbs
calculated to provoke a response.

I've noticed FOM hasn't posted anything recently. I could draw all
sorts of conclusions from this, but I just don't know why he stopped
posting. It could be he's gotten some answers, became tired of the
thread, or never had time to come back and check.

The point is - we don't know why he stopped posting, because he hasn't
written anything to that point. Without more information we can't tell
why.

Why does this matter? In his original post, he didn't write any words
to indicate hatred, a thirst for revenge, or a pre-existing animosity
with his neighbor. Yet even though his questions could have been asked
innocently OR with malice, many replies imagined the latter with no
logical support and little enumeration. Many folks here have been quick
to level judgement and provocations, and are naively shocked at the
OP's "bite me". Like kids teasing another, you're all shocked at the
reply.

To paraphrase Lady, the next time you draw conclusions and opinions of
a person based on a few simply worded, child-level sentences, keep them
to yourself because posting them on a newsgroup may provide you with
responses you obviously don't want to hear.

In short, people, own your responses. Be prepared to reap what you sow.