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FOM wrote: I had a fence installed last year. It is three sides that enclose my backyard. Yesterday, my next door neighbor installed a fence and used my existing fence to complete enclosing his backyard. He did not ask me if he could do this, he just had the installers attach his fence to ours. Now, we are paying for one third of this guy's fence. Is this legal? What should I do? What do you want to happen? Do you want your neighbor to pay you or something? What is your goal? Figure out what you want and whether it's worthwhile. Then talk to your neighbor and see what you two can do about it. If that doesn't work, ask your attorney for advice. |
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D. Gerasimatos wrote: In article . com, FOM wrote: This (from :http://www.lectlaw.com/files/lat05.htm) If someone erects a fence on a boundary line, the fence remains that person's unless, or until, the neighbor uses the fence--which in most states means until the neighbor actually encloses her property. If someone encloses his property, using an already existing fence on any side, most state fence laws require that he pay the other owner for the value of the fence. In other words, he must actually buy a share of the fence. Then he becomes a co-owner of the boundary fence. California describes this as a refund to the other owner of a just proportion of the value of the fence at that time.(16) Many states set the required payment at one half of the value of the existing fence to the other landowner. So you want him to pay you? I'd tell you: "I'll see you in court." I think we're overlooking something obvious, namely that the OP could be neighborly and just talk to the neighbor in a friendly way and see if there's something they could work out that would work for both of them that would meet whatever the OP and the neighbors decide is the goal. Asking strangers in newsgroups, hiring an attorney, going to court, etc. just seem like elaborate ways to avoid the obvious, which is to communicate with the the only other party that matters, namely the neighbor. If the OP wants payment or some sort of compensation, it might be possible to work out some easy form of compensation. We had a dispute once with a neighbor, and we were able to negotiate and settled everything easily and in ways that would benefit everyone. Nobody went on the warpath and relsolving the conflict peacefully improved relations with the neighbors. Maybe you'd win, but I wouldn't pay you a dime without seeing a judge. And that "win" might just lead to continuing hostility with the neighbors. So assuming the OP got some money, in the long run it might just be a big hassle, damage relationships with neighbors, and simply not be worthwhile. Assuming the OP enjoys conflicts, as some people do, it's smart to pick your battles. Is it really worth it to you? You sound like kind of an asshole. You were going to pay for the fence in entirety whether or not your neighbor enclosed his property. I see your point. Anyway, I'd try for a peaceful, openminded resolution. Assuming the OP wants compensation, maybe there's some way that the OP could get that w/o straining neighborly relations further. Had the neighbors been communicating to start with, the problem wouldn't have occurred, IMHO. So they need to start communicating and work out a peaceful resolution. |
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"Donna" wrote in message news:RGcGe.13490$x32.6380@trndny09... "AllEmailDeletedImmediately" wrote in message ... has anyone ever thought that the new neighbor should have come over and offered the guy something for saving him some money? fences can be expensive. that's what i would have done. Same here. As the neighbor, I would definitely have asked before hooking up to the fence, too. But the neighbor isn't posting, just the other guy. And I don't think this situation warrents anywhere near the drama he seems to be investing in it. He should shrug it off as a minor annoyance, and be glad if that is the worst problem he has with his neighbors. actually, it's just a taste of the inconderate actions to come. |
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Dan wrote in :
has anyone ever thought that the new neighbor should have come over and offered the guy something for saving him some money? fences can be expensive. that's what i would have done. That's why I think he should take down the portion of his own fence. Once the neighbor pays to up a replacement, they both will have paid an equal amount for that portion of the fence. Uh, no. The OP will have paid for the entire section of fence, plus the additional trouble/expense of removing 1/2 of it. The neighbor, if he's dumb enough to engage in this childishness, would only pay the cost of installing 1/2 the segment. |
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"D. Gerasimatos" wrote You sound like kind of an asshole. Dimitri D. You are too kind! Could you imagine having this fool as your neighbor? I'd have fun shooting his house/cars/ & him, with paintballs. |
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"FOM" wrote in message I had a fence installed last year. It is three sides that enclose my backyard. Yesterday, my next door neighbor installed a fence and used my existing fence to complete enclosing his backyard. He did not ask me if he could do this, he just had the installers attach his fence to ours. Now, we are paying for one third of this guy's fence. Is this legal? What should I do? Hey Dick, Did it occur to you, the neighbor was using that one side of your fence, before they installed the other three sides? |
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Banty wrote:
In article . com, FOM says... Dear Clark, Kiss my ass. I'm beginning to learn what the situation here concerning who is the reasonable neighbor. Cheers, Banty What you need to learn is this poster is a ****ing flake. Leave him to his own ****pile and STFU. |
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In article , G Henslee says...
Banty wrote: In article . com, FOM says... Dear Clark, Kiss my ass. I'm beginning to learn what the situation here concerning who is the reasonable neighbor. Cheers, Banty What you need to learn is this poster is a ****ing flake. Leave him to his own ****pile and STFU. Charmed. So glad to meet you. Banty |
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"Malcom" wrote in message ... "FOM" wrote in message I had a fence installed last year. It is three sides that enclose my backyard. Yesterday, my next door neighbor installed a fence and used my existing fence to complete enclosing his backyard. He did not ask me if he could do this, he just had the installers attach his fence to ours. Now, we are paying for one third of this guy's fence. Is this legal? What should I do? Hey Dick, Did it occur to you, the neighbor was using that one side of your fence, before they installed the other three sides? i think he later indicated that there was no house behind him when he put up the fence. |
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Banty wrote:
In article , G Henslee says... Banty wrote: In article . com, FOM says... Dear Clark, Kiss my ass. I'm beginning to learn what the situation here concerning who is the reasonable neighbor. Cheers, Banty What you need to learn is this poster is a ****ing flake. Leave him to his own ****pile and STFU. Charmed. So glad to meet you. Banty Pleasure's all yours. |
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"AllEmailDeletedImmediately" wrote in
: "Malcom" wrote in message ... "FOM" wrote in message I had a fence installed last year. It is three sides that enclose my backyard. Yesterday, my next door neighbor installed a fence and used my existing fence to complete enclosing his backyard. He did not ask me if he could do this, he just had the installers attach his fence to ours. Now, we are paying for one third of this guy's fence. Is this legal? What should I do? Hey Dick, Did it occur to you, the neighbor was using that one side of your fence, before they installed the other three sides? i think he later indicated that there was no house behind him when he put up the fence. He indicated that, but it's completly irrelevant. If I was planning to fence my yard, and my neighbor approached me and said he was too, and would I split the cost of the common fence, I'd be happy to do that. If my neighbor had an existing fence, and I intalled one on the other three sides of my yard, and he then asked me to reimburse him for 1/2 the common side, I'd tell him to pound sand. Why? He wanted a fence and he put one up, end of story. |
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In article , David W. says...
"AllEmailDeletedImmediately" wrote in : "Malcom" wrote in message ... "FOM" wrote in message I had a fence installed last year. It is three sides that enclose my backyard. Yesterday, my next door neighbor installed a fence and used my existing fence to complete enclosing his backyard. He did not ask me if he could do this, he just had the installers attach his fence to ours. Now, we are paying for one third of this guy's fence. Is this legal? What should I do? Hey Dick, Did it occur to you, the neighbor was using that one side of your fence, before they installed the other three sides? i think he later indicated that there was no house behind him when he put up the fence. He indicated that, but it's completly irrelevant. If I was planning to fence my yard, and my neighbor approached me and said he was too, and would I split the cost of the common fence, I'd be happy to do that. If my neighbor had an existing fence, and I intalled one on the other three sides of my yard, and he then asked me to reimburse him for 1/2 the common side, I'd tell him to pound sand. Why? He wanted a fence and he put one up, end of story. Yep. Else maybe I should charge my neighbors for having a better view of my incredible-this-year morningglories. But it's still true - the neighbor gets benefit from any pre-existing fence. So, for their just being in their own house next to a fenced yard, they owe that neighbor? Huh? I don't know where the OP's website came from, but I never heard of having to pay for 1/2 of a shared prexisting fence either. Maybe there's some more legal sources he can share with us... Banty |
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Banty wrote:
I don't know where the OP's website came from, but I never heard of having to pay for 1/2 of a shared prexisting fence either. Maybe there's some more legal sources he can share with us... I had never heard that before, so I did some research. Google on "shared boundary fence." Turns out that some (mostly western) states do have laws like that dating back to cattle grazing days. When people tried to apply to laws to residential subdivisions, the states quickly ammeded the laws to limit the forced shared cost to the amount of a 2 wire barbed wire fence for the shared boundary. For the length of a typical residential lot, that amounts to about $25. The practical result is that you aren't going to force your neighbor to pay for part of your fence after the fact, and if you put it right on the boundary, you aren't going to stop him from doing whatever he likes with the fence on his side. That includes painting it shocking pink or attaching additional fencing to it. |
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"Banty" wrote Yep. Else maybe I should charge my neighbors for having a better view of my incredible-this-year morningglories. But it's still true - the neighbor gets benefit from any pre-existing fence. So, for their just being in their own house next to a fenced yard, they owe that neighbor? Huh? I don't know where the OP's website came from, but I never heard of having to pay for 1/2 of a shared prexisting fence either. Maybe there's some more legal sources he can share with us... Banty Hey, great idea on charging the neighbor for viewing your morning glories. I think I'll send my neighbor an invoice for benefiting the shade of my Crimson King, when the time of day is just right. Maybe I'll send them another invoice for sharing my outdoor lighting with them. |
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Considering that you posed a message to a newsgroup of strangers it would
appear that you wish to learn how those strangers would feel if their neighbor installed a fence connected to theirs and how they would handle it. So far - everyone who has provided a response, which evidentally you don't want to hear - you respond with "Bite Me" Well --- next time you have a question - answer it yourself cause posting on a newsgroup may provide you with responses you obviously don't want to hear. "FOM" wrote in message oups.com... I had a fence installed last year. It is three sides that enclose my backyard. Yesterday, my next door neighbor installed a fence and used my existing fence to complete enclosing his backyard. He did not ask me if he could do this, he just had the installers attach his fence to ours. Now, we are paying for one third of this guy's fence. Is this legal? What should I do? |
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On Sat, 30 Jul 2005 11:45:07 -0600, in misc.consumers.house "Clark W. Griswold,
Jr." wrote: The practical result is that you aren't going to force your neighbor to pay for part of your fence after the fact, and if you put it right on the boundary, you aren't going to stop him from doing whatever he likes with the fence on his side. That includes painting it shocking pink or attaching additional fencing to it. In my state the neighbor could force you to put your fence 5 feet back from the boundary. |
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Dan wrote:
That's why I think he should take down the portion of his own fence. Once the neighbor pays to up a replacement, they both will have paid an equal amount for that portion of the fence. If the poster takes down his portion of the original fence and forces the neighbor to replace that section, he's going to end up with the ugly side of the replacement fence instead of what he already has. If I were the neighbor and the poster was so chicken**** that he pulled it down, you can be sure the replacement would be butt-ugly on one side. I'd try to make it clash in some way. One good turn.... If I put up a fence and my next door neighbor ties his own into it, who gives a ****? That's his side of the fence. What I don't see doesn't concern me. The original poster is being an asshole. -- Mortimer Schnerd, RN VE |
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Doug Miller wrote:
In article , (D. Gerasimatos) wrote: In article .com, FOM wrote: Dear Dimitri, You can bite me, too. This is your way of proving that you're not an asshole? Doesn't seem to be working too well, does it? Oh, he's definitely an asshole. As a registered nurse, I know one when I see one. -- Mortimer Schnerd, RN VE |
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Lady,
Please see my above post. The responses were full of assumptions about this guy's intentions, and some of them contained personal barbs calculated to provoke a response. I've noticed FOM hasn't posted anything recently. I could draw all sorts of conclusions from this, but I just don't know why he stopped posting. It could be he's gotten some answers, became tired of the thread, or never had time to come back and check. The point is - we don't know why he stopped posting, because he hasn't written anything to that point. Without more information we can't tell why. Why does this matter? In his original post, he didn't write any words to indicate hatred, a thirst for revenge, or a pre-existing animosity with his neighbor. Yet even though his questions could have been asked innocently OR with malice, many replies imagined the latter with no logical support and little enumeration. Many folks here have been quick to level judgement and provocations, and are naively shocked at the OP's "bite me". Like kids teasing another, you're all shocked at the reply. To paraphrase Lady, the next time you draw conclusions and opinions of a person based on a few simply worded, child-level sentences, keep them to yourself because posting them on a newsgroup may provide you with responses you obviously don't want to hear. In short, people, own your responses. Be prepared to reap what you sow. |
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what if the fence is inside his property line? can the guy then just
hook in and claim some of his property? does it matter if it's 1", 1', several feet? i can't see how fencing in anyone's property would be allowed. and what if the property line is a line of trees? just curious. |
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"bryanska" wrote in message ups.com... Lady, Brian, unless you quote a little bit of the message you are replying to, people aren't going to have the slightest clue what you are going on about. All I can tell is that you seem to be replying to either a poster named "lady" whose posts I haven't seen yet, or one of the female posters to this thread. shrugs If you're trying to get a point across, using standard usenet etiquette will help an awful lot. Donna |
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In article . com, bryanska
says... Lady, Please see my above post. The responses were full of assumptions about this guy's intentions, and some of them contained personal barbs calculated to provoke a response. I've noticed FOM hasn't posted anything recently. I could draw all sorts of conclusions from this, but I just don't know why he stopped posting. It could be he's gotten some answers, became tired of the thread, or never had time to come back and check. The point is - we don't know why he stopped posting, because he hasn't written anything to that point. Without more information we can't tell why. Why does this matter? In his original post, he didn't write any words to indicate hatred, a thirst for revenge, or a pre-existing animosity with his neighbor. Yet even though his questions could have been asked innocently OR with malice, many replies imagined the latter with no logical support and little enumeration. Many folks here have been quick to level judgement and provocations, and are naively shocked at the OP's "bite me". Like kids teasing another, you're all shocked at the reply. I think it's that, firstly, his whole appproach is unreasonable - his neighbor is "using his fence". We see a lot of that in this and another newsgroup I frequent. I'm afraid folks are going to react to that - and none of the reactions were unreasonable. Think of it this way - we're a bunch of non-involved folks, interested in the topic, giving a non-biased view. That being, after seeing many similar discussions, that his neighbor is "using his fence" is the wrong way of looking at it, ethically, practically, and in most places anyway, even legally. Then, once these initial resonpses are read, Mr. FOM went *immediately* to the dismissive, nearly-obscene "bite me". Reasonable people dont' do that. They may voice disagreement; they don't up and say "bite me". That's how this person presented himself in this thread. The natural result of this behavior is that people will observe that it comes from unreasonable, not reasonable, people, and draw a conclusion as a result. To paraphrase Lady, the next time you draw conclusions and opinions of a person based on a few simply worded, child-level sentences, keep them to yourself because posting them on a newsgroup may provide you with responses you obviously don't want to hear. Funny - I think this whole thread was about FOM not hearing the validation he wanted, and learned that he probably has little recourse (because, truly, he doens't actually have a problem), and reacting childishly and agrily. And you're in effect telling us that we should keep those responses to ourselves. In short, people, own your responses. Be prepared to reap what you sow. Hmmm, isn't that what FOM did? Banty |
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In article , Mortimer Schnerd,
RN says... Dan wrote: That's why I think he should take down the portion of his own fence. Once the neighbor pays to up a replacement, they both will have paid an equal amount for that portion of the fence. If the poster takes down his portion of the original fence and forces the neighbor to replace that section, he's going to end up with the ugly side of the replacement fence instead of what he already has. If I were the neighbor and the poster was so chicken**** that he pulled it down, you can be sure the replacement would be butt-ugly on one side. I'd try to make it clash in some way. One good turn.... If I put up a fence and my next door neighbor ties his own into it, who gives a ****? That's his side of the fence. What I don't see doesn't concern me. In New York state, if the fence is on the property line (or less than some xx feet inside - I forget), the nice side has to be out. Of course, it can be the nice side of a high-as-zoning-allows ugly stockade fence, or whatever, and the O.P would have to live with it. Because, at that point, pretty likely he isn't on speaking terms with the neighbor to come up with something close to mutual. Or any other issue in the future for that matter.. It would be a case of cutting off the nose to spite the face. The original poster is being an asshole. Yep. Banty |
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In article , Banty wrote:
In New York state, if the fence is on the property line (or less than some xx feet inside - I forget), the nice side has to be out. That doesn't make any sense - if it's *on* the property line, which side is "out"? -- Regards, Doug Miller (alphageek at milmac dot com) It's time to throw all their damned tea in the harbor again. |
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"Ian" wrote in message ... This seems to be a lamentable feature of using the google newsgroups software to do f/ups. Personally, I think Brianska and FOM are the same guy. Donna |
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Pardon me. I was referencing Lady's post, number 61. I have summed up
quotes and main points in my posts 44, 46, 48 and 51. |
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In article , Ian says...
wrote: "bryanska" wrote in message ups.com... Lady, Brian, unless you quote a little bit of the message you are replying to, people aren't going to have the slightest clue what you are going on about. This seems to be a lamentable feature of using the google newsgroups software to do f/ups. I've noticed it in many n/groups over the last year or so, and you're right, it does make it almost impossible to follow the offender's argument, or understand their comment. webtv users do this too, for technical reasons they have no choice, I gather, but i long ago did a blanket KILLfile entry on them! All I can tell is that you seem to be replying to either a poster named "lady" whose posts I haven't seen yet, or one of the female posters to this thread. shrugs If you're trying to get a point across, using standard usenet etiquette will help an awful lot. The latter I think. From the header, it seems the response is to: ===================== References: .com 9kSGe.5354$W72.4711@trndny05 ========================= I haven't checked this against previous messages, but i imagine he may be responding to the poster who claimed to be a registered nurse and therefore knew about bodily orifices. There was a poster using a hotmail account who used the name "Lady". The original article didn't seem unduly interesting to me, but the ensuing conflagration has kept me quite amused .....thanks to all for brightening my week! :-) Banty |
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Banty, excellent reply. Your post is a good example of "all things
considered". I guess I'm still resonating with FOM's early reply of "way to make all sorts of judgements about me from my post". That really hit home, and I thought it would keep folks from doing more of the same. I admit the first "bite me" was unecessary, especially after he had posted such a succinct and perfect reply with the "way to make..." statement. However, I still believe FOM merely wanted information and was prepared to listen. But when it was packaged with so much hostility and assumption, I couldn't blame him for his response. He replied with interesting quotes from some law source and invited further comment (without inserting any of his own). In effect, he offered a blank canvas and was undeservedly characterized as an ass. As more and more people have posted to this thread, I wonder if any are interested in the original topic. I'm captivated by the group's behavior in assuming so much about this person's attitude. I don't think the group should keep responses to themselves (I was trying to illustrate the double-edgedness of Lady's point). But everyone seemed so shocked that FOM could be offended. The situation is quite similiar to unfamiliar culture ettiquette. The OP could have been asking why Japanese won't look him in the eye on the Tokyo subway. Now imagine the OP is asking YOU how he should react - should he be offended? Is there anything he should do? Would you answer him by telling him he's being a bit anal? |
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In article .com, "bryanska" wrote:
Pardon me. I was referencing Lady's post, number 61. I have summed up quotes and main points in my posts 44, 46, 48 and 51. What on earth are you talking about? *Please* quote some of the context you're replying to next time. -- Regards, Doug Miller (alphageek at milmac dot com) It's time to throw all their damned tea in the harbor again. |
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Nope, not the same guy. I just feel strongly about my position and am
willing to patiently discuss it. I wish FOM would post a bit more, this is rapidly deteriorating into futility. Hell - I'm considering posting under a second name to argue the group's point, as a debate exercise. I'd like to understand the other side. |
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Sorry Doug it's too much work. Interested folks will have to read the
thread. I wish I could supply quotes but summing up the whole thing will take too much time. If you don't feel like reading the whole thread, that's OK, but you might not get the whole "feel". The numbers come from viewing the thread with the "view as tree" frame option. You can click on all the responses in a left-hand frame. |
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In article .com, bryanska
says... Nope, not the same guy. I just feel strongly about my position and am willing to patiently discuss it. I wish FOM would post a bit more, this is rapidly deteriorating into futility. Hell - I'm considering posting under a second name to argue the group's point, as a debate exercise. I'd like to understand the other side. Um, you didn't quote any previous text in your response to a post about how you should quote previous text. And there's no reason why you can't argue his side. That's what USENET is about. Banty |
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In article , Doug Miller says...
In article , Banty wrote: In New York state, if the fence is on the property line (or less than some xx feet inside - I forget), the nice side has to be out. That doesn't make any sense - if it's *on* the property line, which side is "out"? Meaning, if you put up a fence, the nice side has to be out to your neighbor. Banty |
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"bryanska" wrote in message oups.com... Nope, not the same guy. I just feel strongly about my position and am willing to patiently discuss it. I wish FOM would post a bit more, this is rapidly deteriorating into futility. It's not really a debate about facts, Bryan, but rather an issue of perception. There is only so much interest most of us can gather once the discussion has covered "You interpreted him wrong." "No I didn't, you did.". I doubt you're ever going to get much of a debate. Of the posts to this thread that I've seen, every single person but one (that would be you) got the same impression from the way FOM phrased his initial post, namely, that he was either trolling (my guess, at this point) or wanted to make a buck off a benign, common situation. I was always taught that it is the responsibility of the writer to accurately convey his/her message. If everyone is getting an incorrect message (btw, not what I think is happening. I think the group has tagged FOM's post's gestalt accurately), then it is up to the OP to correct this. He has chosen not to. shrugs That makes me think we (TINW) were correct. Hell - I'm considering posting under a second name to argue the group's point, as a debate exercise. I'd like to understand the other side. It's not a 'side', thing. It's a perception thing. And when N-1 perceives a message one way, that is generally the way it was meant to be perceived, IME. You read it differently, which is totally ok. Donna |
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"bryanska" wrote in message oups.com... Sorry Doug it's too much work. Interested folks will have to read the thread. I wish I could supply quotes but summing up the whole thing will take too much time. If you don't feel like reading the whole thread, that's OK, but you might not get the whole "feel". The numbers come from viewing the thread with the "view as tree" frame option. You can click on all the responses in a left-hand frame. Bryan, most of us are using newsreaders, not google groups. *You* see a tree. Most of the rest of us don't. And if you choose not to quote who you are replying to, what will happen, generally, is that people will stop taking the time to read you, unfortunately. It's like top posting. If you make it difficult to follow your posts, people will stop trying. That would be a shame. Donna |
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No, and I'm not going to quote previous text. Interested people can
read the whole post. (I expect people will not like this; it's a small transgression and I'm willing to live with it and defend it in a different post.) |
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Donna, excellent reply. In my life I have always been willing to give
the benefit of the doubt, but most people do not. Without going on at length to seem preachy, I must bow out here. Additionally, we're descending into procedurals (quoting) that sideline the point. I still believe the group is wrong, half-cocked and seeing themselves in FOM's open-to-interpretation post. But without FOM's supoort, and to prevent myself from obsessing over online groupthink, I have to go. Thanks to all who provided the intelligent arguments on FOM's side. |
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I'm sorry - but have to standby my original comments.
And you need to also understand that this is a newsgroup which involves complete strangers and if you want a "real" answer then you need to add ALL supporting facts - otherwise those responding will HAVE to make assumptions. 1) the original poster could have said in his original post that he and his neighbor have a fabulous relationship where they are at each other's homes every day 2) he could have said that they have a very strained relationship but manage to get along 3) he could have said they don't get along at all So -- basically -- if one wants "realistic" answers to a situation without those strangers responding based on assumptions, one needs to include all the facts. "bryanska" wrote in message ups.com... Lady, Please see my above post. The responses were full of assumptions about this guy's intentions, and some of them contained personal barbs calculated to provoke a response. I've noticed FOM hasn't posted anything recently. I could draw all sorts of conclusions from this, but I just don't know why he stopped posting. It could be he's gotten some answers, became tired of the thread, or never had time to come back and check. The point is - we don't know why he stopped posting, because he hasn't written anything to that point. Without more information we can't tell why. Why does this matter? In his original post, he didn't write any words to indicate hatred, a thirst for revenge, or a pre-existing animosity with his neighbor. Yet even though his questions could have been asked innocently OR with malice, many replies imagined the latter with no logical support and little enumeration. Many folks here have been quick to level judgement and provocations, and are naively shocked at the OP's "bite me". Like kids teasing another, you're all shocked at the reply. To paraphrase Lady, the next time you draw conclusions and opinions of a person based on a few simply worded, child-level sentences, keep them to yourself because posting them on a newsgroup may provide you with responses you obviously don't want to hear. In short, people, own your responses. Be prepared to reap what you sow. |
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On 31 Jul 2005 10:15:37 -0700, "bryanska" wrote:
Pardon me. I was referencing Lady's post, number 61. I have summed up quotes and main points in my posts 44, 46, 48 and 51. When you learn a little about the newsgroups you will discover that the messages are all numbered by the severer on which they were finally read. For example, you message quoted above is number 141931 on my server and in my newsreader. So your reference to numbers is meaningless. You also need to know that the VAST MAJORITY of users do not use Google to read news groups. Most use a real news agent and an nntp server. Also, because of the way messages are distributed, it is VERY common for replies to arrive at a particular server before the original message. So if you want people to understand what you are writing about you need to include the original. If you are too lazy to so, you will have demonstrated that you messages aren't worth reading. If you don't want to take the time to make them meaningful, the reader won't take the time to try to interpret them. |
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