Lady,

Please see my above post. The responses were full of assumptions about
this guy's intentions, and some of them contained personal barbs
calculated to provoke a response.

I've noticed FOM hasn't posted anything recently. I could draw all
sorts of conclusions from this, but I just don't know why he stopped
posting. It could be he's gotten some answers, became tired of the
thread, or never had time to come back and check.

The point is - we don't know why he stopped posting, because he hasn't
written anything to that point. Without more information we can't tell
why.

Why does this matter? In his original post, he didn't write any words
to indicate hatred, a thirst for revenge, or a pre-existing animosity
with his neighbor. Yet even though his questions could have been asked
innocently OR with malice, many replies imagined the latter with no
logical support and little enumeration. Many folks here have been quick
to level judgement and provocations, and are naively shocked at the
OP's "bite me". Like kids teasing another, you're all shocked at the
reply.

To paraphrase Lady, the next time you draw conclusions and opinions of
a person based on a few simply worded, child-level sentences, keep them
to yourself because posting them on a newsgroup may provide you with
responses you obviously don't want to hear.

In short, people, own your responses. Be prepared to reap what you sow.