From what I have seen the right way to show off and impress everyone about
your stuff is to have all of your fancy stuff in the display kitchen which
is never used.

You can go the other way with a stainless kitchen and have it show that this is
a working kitchen. The stainless is clean, it just shows signs of habitation.
Once you get over the first scratch and continue to use it you eventually get
to a brushed finish.