On Mon, 14 Jun 2021 08:04:16 -0700 (PDT), Marilyn Manson
wrote:

I usually don't give wedding gifts. I ask the couple what their favorite charity
or cause is and I make a donation in their name. I do the same in lieu of funeral
flowers, although most families already request that these days.

There was a Seinfeld episode about making a donation in lieu of giving an
actual gift. George Costanza was not amused when it happened to him. I
don't think it's a bad idea, though.