On 12/19/2015 9:10 PM, Oren wrote:
On Sat, 19 Dec 2015 19:52:07 -0700, rbowman
wrote:

On 12/19/2015 05:28 PM, Oren wrote:
You can buy a coffin and/or Urn at Costco. Don't let funeral homes
sell you a marked up item. Me? Cremate me in a cardboard box and
scatter my ashes off the Sanibel Lighthouse on high tide.

That was my brother's wishes and the original game plan. Then one of his
sons brought up the environmental impact of dumping ashes off the beach
without the necessary permits and so forth. Plan 2 involved hiring a
boat to go out to sea a ways. I don't recall the details but that fell
through perhaps because assembling all the family members was a
logistical problem. Plan 3 was similar, but involved an airplane. The
pilot who was rumored to be okay with dumping ashes proved to be harder
to find than Waldo.

It's not really my business and I have no intention of asking my sister
in law when I call over the holidays but afaik he's still parked on the
shelf.

Moral: cultivate at least one family member who can get things done and
isn't some sort of environmentalist.

Mom, sisters and me put our brother's ashes in the Gulf of Mexico. We
took a gambling boat out of Ft Myers (his desires) after 9/11. The
ship mate at the entrance ask my sister "what is in the bag", "my
brother", she said. Twelve miles out we spread his ashes.

There are federal laws about burial at sea. What mom wants and what I
want will not conform. She will be at the end of the beach and I'll
be around the corner, near the lighthouse on Sanibel Island.

IIUC, sea burials inside the 12 mile limit require a "permit". I'll be
an outlaw



I hear someone explaining to the authorities ... "Honest officer! I
tripped and the thing flew out of my hands while I was talking to my
brother! I'm SOOOO upset! What am I going to tell the rest of the
family, now??"

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Maggie