If I understand, you need a female-to-female 1/8" headphone jack... I did a
quick search on Radio Shack's website. Here is what you are looking for:
http://www.radioshack.com/product.as...Fid=274%2D1555
If you already have a connector that allows you to hook up 2 pair headphones
to a portable device, it can be used also. Just make sure to tape over the
male connector or you might accidentally ground the signal.

I wanna connect that to the vcr RCA output jacks. Now at
Radio Shack I did find a Y-adaptor with 2 RCA plugs to a
1/8" phone _plug_ rather than jack, but with this, I'd still
need an adaptor to connect the 2 phone plugs then, IOW, an
adaptor with 2-1/8" jacks at each end--can't seem to find
any combination that would quite work yet. Aagghh!
...tonyC (Hoping some day, ALL jacks and plugs become truly
standardized down to 1-2 kinds! )