On Wed, 01 Feb 2006 18:10:41 GMT, (Speechless)
wrote:

On Sun, 29 Jan 2006 22:35:11 -0700, "Bart D. Hull"
wrote:


Gentleman,

Just thought I'd run this past y'all. Recently got a
girlfriend with 4 kids (1 Boy 4, 3 Girls 8 - 14) They
are painfully ignorant on how to be safe in a shop or garage
environment. (Had to spend Thanksgiving in the ER due to one
of the girls tipping a motorcycle over on herself and
piercing her thigh with the foot peg. Three layers of
stitches later she's somewhat OK.)

In your experience how do you get these guys up to speed
without them killing themselves.

Never get between mama bear and her cubs. This applies doubly so for
a human female and her brood. In this case, you are the outsider
looking in, and always will be. What you see is what you get with
this package deal.


If it wasn't for the lady
being a really special lady and REAL easy to look at I
wouldn't bother. (She rides dirt bikes, works on her own
van, likes to travel, not afraid of anything, assists with
projects and is pretty darn smart, just to name a few.)

Tell us about her, say, three years from now. Meanwhile, you might
want to have a chat with her ex to learn the reasons why he changed
his mind about her -- sooner, rather than later, when he shows up to
have tea with his kids -- he comes with the package deal also. If he
is no longer among the living, you would be wise to hire a private
investigator and independently confirm the reasons for his demise.

Unless this lady has a history of being involved in male oriented
activities since the days when she was a teenager, you may yet learn
the extent to which a woman will go to get a man (or more than one
man) -- some collect them like trophies. Make sure you are the
trapper, not the trapped.


It is even difficult to get them to understand something as
simple as taking their shoes off in the house and put them
on to visit me in the garage. (Yep, already had one cut a
foot on some metal scraps, due to bare feet.Still have to
yell at her to put some shoes on when she comes into the shop.)

How do you teach the "common sense" a great deal of us seem
to have in this group? I never had more than some burned
fingers (my fault) and got a small scald from a bad radiator
cap. (Wrong place, wrong time!) I sure didn't need any trips
to the ER before I learned.

I have a great deal of patience, but it bothers me that they
will get hurt. Only other thing is to lock them out of the
garage, but you just know they'll find their way in when I'm
not there and truly get hurt.

Any ideas?

Get used to it. This will be your reality if you continue with the
relationship. Those kids are not yours to parent or to discipline.
Only their owner is permitted to perform such functions and she will
eventually make this very clear to you.

And one more tip: Make sure you get a prenuptial agreement if things
get serious. If the relationship goes sour, you will have enough
emotional problems to deal with, without having to face financial
ruin.


Some nuggets of truth there indeed.

Gunner


Thanks

Bart

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