wrote:
On Mon, 21 Nov 2005 20:50:43 -0500, Kenneth
wrote:
On Tue, 22 Nov 2005 00:37:05 GMT, "Dave Lyon"
wrote:
One might hope that the adults who advocate hitting children
have the opportunity to be hit by someone five times their
own weight.
Now that would be a lesson...
All the best,
--
Kenneth
If you email... Please remove the "SPAMLESS."
Just out of curiosity, how many kids do you have, and how do they act?
One... He's six, and is a joy. He behaves as we would expect
a healthy child of his age to act, but is disciplined,
understands what is right and wrong, and is a happy, well
adjusted kid.
All the best,
Now that's special a perfect father to a perfect son.
So just what and the hell is a "well adjusted kid"? Adjusted to What?
Adjusted to You? Adjusted to the weather? Adjusted to the new dog?
You have a six year old boy who is well adjusted, knows right from
wrong, and is happy. I guess your job is done, time to send him off to
college.
"well adjusted" is a right term and used in a right content.
Here is an article suggesting that if your kid needs spanking there is a chance that
origin of that behavior is YOUR behavior:
http://www.brightsurf.com/news/headl...rticleID=20942
Warm, nurturing parents have well-adjusted adolescents
September 14, 2005
Although preadolescents and adolescents might think their parents hold nosway over
them, a study published in the September/October issue of the journal Child Development
finds just the opposite – early parenting style makes a big difference in how a child
turns out.
Researchers from Arizona State University in Tempe evaluated 186 adolescents three times
over a six-year period, once every two years from the time the children were about 9 to
about age 13. They used parent and teacher reports to evaluate how well adjusted the
children were in terms of aggression, antisocial and delinquent behavior,and how well
the children were able to “self-regulate,” i.e., inhibit their behavior when necessary
and control their emotions and behavior.
The researchers assessed the children’s self-regulation by measuring their persistence
in completing a frustrating task (rather than cheating or giving up), along with reports
from parents and teachers. Additionally, they observed the parents’ (mostly mothers’)
warmth and positive emotions as they interacted with their child during each of the
three assessments.
The researchers found that parenting, youths’ self-regulation, and youths’ adjustment
were generally related to each other within and across time. Additionally, they found
evidence that parents who interacted warmly and positively with their children at the
youngest age (the first assessment) had children who were relatively self-regulated two
years later, and, in turn, exhibited fewer problem behaviors at the finalassessment.
“Our results are consistent with the view that parenting affects children’s
self-regulation and their overall adjustment,” said study author Nancy Eisenberg, Ph.D.,
Regents’ professor of psychology at Arizona State University in Tempe.
“Thus, the quality of parent-child interactions in childhood seems to foreshadow whether
young adolescents experience behavioral problems in adolescence, and thisrelation
appears to be at least partly due to the fact that warm, positive parentshave children
who are well regulated,” she said.
“Because warm parenting seems to foster children’s self-regulation, it is likely to
contribute to youths’ positive functioning in a variety of areas.”
Society for Research in Child Development