giga wrote:
Hi

I just bought a new home in a new Development. I moved in 1 month before my
neighbor on the right moved in. When I found out that the neighbors moving
in owned a fencing company I decided to wait for their home to be finished
building and for them to move in before putting up a fence. I thought once
they moved in we can discuss and talk what kind and color fence to put
between our homes. Once they moved in we talked for about 5 minutes about
what kind of a fence and color.

Now my house is Light gray brick in the front and white siding and his brown
brick and brown siding. He decided on putting up a frost or wired fence. but
he chose brown for it. For my house I think white would go perfectly. anyhow
I mentioned to him why not black this way it will go with his home and mine
since black would match his brown house too.

Brown will fade into the landscape a bit better, perhaps. In view of
the fact the neighbor was more aggressive, I would forget about it. You
can choose to make it a major issue in your life, which will only
distress you more. If you think it totally ugly, then plant a hedge to
hide it. You may be able to make the issue into a twenty year war,
since fences can cause so much conflict, but you will only harm yourself
and your family.


Anyhow not 3 days later I left for work and he put up his brown fence
anyways. I called my kids at home and told them to pass the phone to them
and told them I would not pay them anything for the fence since the color
was not what I wanted.
He said fine don't worry about it.

I was and still am ****ed. He put the fence right on the line of our land.
My question is has anyone seen 2 fences side by side ?

I am planning on putting up my own fence on every side of me now. No more
Mr. nice guy anymore. People have said to me its his house he can do
whatever he wants so therefore I am going do whatever I want too.

You are saying a thoughtless and agressive neighbor has turned you into
the same. How about going back to Mr. nice guy, remain principled and
positive. Doesn't mean be a door mat, but just choosing your battles
wisely.


SO question is has anyone seen 2 fences side by side and does it look stupid
? I was thinking of putting a wood fence 5 foot high with a mesh of a foot
on top for a total of 6 feet. his fence is 5 foot tall. This way he will
have his nice brown fence that matches his home and then see my wooden mesh
of a foot above it.

I am not at war with him. I smile and talk very polite with him. But wait
till he sees what I'm goning to install and i'm going to do it when he is at
work to.

Anyhow I would like to hear your opinions on this situation. and if anybody
else has been in this situation and what did they do.

I have neighbors who are takers, and a few who are givers. The takers
will do ANYTHING to get what they want. I've gotten the dirty end from
some of them but, given a choice, will try to remain who I am. I won't
let them turn me into one of them.

Be thankful and enjoy what you have - a brand new home. I'm glad you
posted this, because it puts a lot in perspective. And if the neighbors
install purple fences, just plant some purple flowers to coordinate and
bring them a bouquet once in a while )


thanks very much

joeway