The only way to keep the group healthy is to share what you can when
you can, and let the little **** roll off you. It's nice to get
validation for your response, sure- but if you don't, why loose any
sleep over it?

Amen!

It is even more important to keep contributing than to offer validation.
Contributions offfer something to everyone (lurkers and posters alike), the
latter is really only useful for one person and is chaf for the rest.

(And yes, I realize that this post is arguably in the later category)

-steve