On Sun, 22 Nov 2020 07:26:04 +0000, Robin wrote:

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Theo's answer covers all the main points I'd have made.

And so should my reply to him to you. ;-)

There was a tread on a group somewhere where someone was complaining
about people disrespecting animals (wild, and domestic) by setting off
fireworks. The thread moved more on the point of the subject
(respecting animals) and someone quested what it had to do with
fireworks?

The thing is, it wasn't *about* fireworks, it was about *disrespecting
animals*, had the fireworks not been happening the animals (that had
been there all along) wouldn't have been suffering and so no post
would have been made (or certainly not one specifically about
animals).

It seems some (intentionally or otherwise) can't sometimes see the
wood from the trees (and I'm included in that of course) but some of
us seem to be able to cope more often that others. ;-)

Maybe this *is* an observation of those of us who tend to use more
'fuzzy logic', the right brainers, they aren't so interested in the
detail but the bigger picture and so whilst might not be the best
informed when it comes down to the actual details, at lest have a fair
grasp of the spirit of the concept?

That's not saying one is better than the other, that's admitting we
are different and have different strengths and weaknesses. We don't
all want to be accountants or social workers [1]. ;-)

Cheers, T i m

[1] The whole use of the left / right brain lateralisation thing came
from a very good mate (and once my work mentor) who was interested to
find out, how after living with his wife for 30 odd years, he didn't
really like her (or her him it seemed).

The issue was she was an accountant, so very used to a very cold /
black and white view of the world and had a plan from very young age
how her life should be. Find boy, marry boy, buy house, have children,
see children grow up and leave home but she didn't have any plans for
after that.

He on the other had was a support guy turned IT trainer and so was
*very* used to dealing with and helping / training *people* and so was
very much more tuned into the wants, needs and expectations of
*people*.

So, the kids leave home, they are left with just each other, he would
like love and companionship and she doesn't even consider the idea.

So, to press the point (in vein it seems) he put 'Divorce' on the
calendar and she couldn't see why he would be considering doing so.
He's unlikely to just leave her because he wouldn't want to hurt her,
realising she has no (natural) idea what is wrong (in spit of him
explaining it to her on many occasions).

He rates himself as a right brain 2 (out of 5, unusual for a man, they
are normally left brain 1 ..) and her a left brain 3, again, unusual
for a woman who are normally at least right brained something
(maternal instincts etc).