On Thursday, July 7, 2016 at 12:53:01 AM UTC-4, Stormin Mormon wrote:
On 7/6/2016 9:29 PM, DerbyDad03 wrote:
On Wednesday, July 6, 2016 at 4:13:12 PM UTC-4, Stormin Mormon wrote:
On 7/6/2016 11:16 AM, DerbyDad03 wrote:
On Wednesday, July 6, 2016 at 10:52:58 AM UTC-4, Stormin Mormon wrote:
On 7/6/2016 10:45 AM, DerbyDad03 wrote:
On Wednesday, July 6, 2016 at 9:54:50 AM UTC-4, Stormin Mormon wrote:
On 7/6/2016 9:18 AM, DerbyDad03 wrote:
I do not use Facebook, based on a long-ago request from my "kids". They
are all adults now, ranging in age from 23 - 28 and have been on Facebook
since high school. Back then we sat down and discussed the pros and cons
of the internet and specifically Facebook. I trusted my kids back then and
I trust them even more now. They requested that SWMBO and I not join Facebook
so that they could have their privacy. We went along with that request.


Please consider another father talk with your
kids. Anything posted to FB is public info.
Regardless of privacy settings. Sounds like
your kids need some instruction on how to NOT
post personal information on the computer.


Why do you think I need to talk to my kids? What in my original post
indicates that my kids don't understand how Facebook works? Why do you
think that they are posting "personal information on the computer"?


1) Some thing they are posting, they don't want you to see

Not true. Wanting their privacy is very different than not wanting us
to see what they post. That might be hard for some to understand, but I
get it. In addition, we have lots of family members, including my
(and SWMBO's) brothers and sisters who are FB friends with my kids. If
my kids were trying to hide things from us, Facebook would not be the
place to do it. They simply asked for some separation and we honored
that request. It's called trust and respect.

2) Nothing. What, in my reply, makes you think I said any
thing about your kids knowing how FB works?

I quote: "Please consider another father talk with your
kids. Anything posted to FB is public info. Regardless of
privacy settings."

Why would you suggest that I have "another" talk with my
kids and then follow that with an explanation of how Facebook
works unless you thought that they needed it explained to them?

If the talk is not supposed to be about Facebook privacy
settings/issues, just what are you suggesting that I talk to
them about?

3) Because they asked *you* not to be on FB

That was addressed in #1 above.


Hey, if you don't want to take my advice,
that's fine. Why spend post after post
blathering on and on about it? Methinks
thou doth protest too much. If you were
truly comfortable and secure, you could
easily have said no thank you, and been
done with it. Why are you making so much
effort, and changing the subject?


Is that the best defense you have for your erroneous post?

You know, you could just admit your error. Yes, it is legal
and ethical to apologize on usenet.


I'm not defending any thing. I'm suggesting
to you that there are other ways to handle
a moment when you don't like a suggestion.

And, no, I will not apologize for making a
sincere suggestion. You may wish to apologize
for goal post shifting, changing the subject,
and taking offense when none was meant.


Your suggestion was based on your assumption that my kids "need some instruction on
how to NOT post personal information on the computer. " (your words)

That assumption was incorrect. That assumption was also a change of subject.

You are assuming that I took offense. That is another incorrect assumption. I was not offended
by your suggestion, but I do have the right to ask you why you made it. When you give your
reasons, I have the right to point out the error in your thought process. That's called a
conversation.

You say that I don't want to take your advice. That is also incorrect. It's not that I don't *want*
to take your advice, it's that I don't *need* to take your advice. Your suggestion was based on an
incorrect assumption related to my kids' knowledge of internet privacy issues. You brought it
up, I responded. Again, that's called a conversation.