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"Robert Green" wrote:

"Han" wrote in message
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Kurt spurred my wife and me to see an eldercare attorney. The lawyer
point blank came out and said very early in the meeting that DNR's and
other end-of-life directives are incredibly easy to work around or
outright ignore, at least in my state. That didn't give me a warm and
fuzzy feeling. My wife's uncle had worked out every detail of his
passing - how to avoid the rapacious fees charged by some (most?)
funeral homes, who was to get the bulk of his estate, etc. Despite
all that planning, life sat on him anyway through a bizarre series of
events coupled with a plan that lacked "depth." His primary
beneficiary died shortly after the funeral.

That is all the more reason to appoint a durable power of attorney for
healthcare for someone you trust.

Name three people that you'd trust with your life. (-:

That isn't the problem anyway. It is not terribly rare that, even when
there is durable power of attorney, the wishes of the person as conveyed
by the person with the power of attorney is ignored. If someone else in
the family is making enough noise, the docs may often go with the noisy
one because that is where the legal issues can arise. Most states that I
am aware of, give little protection to the doc from others even if there
is a DPoA. The DPoA really gives it best protection against the doc who
doesn't like to have people mess with his or her save stats.



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