On Fri, 13 May 2011 13:01:46 -0500, dpb wrote:

On 5/13/2011 12:47 PM, dadiOH wrote:
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If you do decide to cut it, I suggest you talk to the neighbor, tell him you
are going to cut it and ask if you can come onto his property so you can cut
it properly. "Properly" is *NOT* just whacking it off, it is cutting close
to the trunk or branch from which is growing so the cambium layer can
eventually grow over the cut; if you just whack it, the stub will rot. If
you do it properly, disposal is still your job.

OTOH, if the neighbor has been asked politely and declined, there's

Declined to do what, to trim his tree when it's the one askeing whose
repsonsibility to trim it? Why shouldn't he decline?

Or to let the one asking come on his yard? I would try to get his
cooperation again, but I wouldn't try forever.

little incentive to go out of one's way unless there's a special
circumstance (like the neighbor is elderly or otherwise incapacitated,
etc.)

Maybe you coudl tell yourself that even young healthy people who are
not cooperative when they should be are incapacitated too.
Psychically, emotionally, because they weren't raised right, or
something. Of course telling yourself this may not convince yourself
of it, or cause you to make allowance for it.

If just choosing to ignore it when clearly could if cared, why
should OP take extra care in reciprocal? (Devil's advocate position,
here...)

For those who care, the Bible in Leviticus 19 says not to take
vengeance and not to bear a grudge. My educated friend tells me a
common illustration of this. You go to your neighbor to borrow a
tool, maybe a power tool, and even though you aren't likely, he
doesnt' think you're likely, to break it or not return it, he says No.
Then later, he comes to you to borrow something equivalent. He's not
likely to break it or not return it either. If you think, "You
wouldn't lend to me so I won't lend to you" and you don't lend it,
that's taking vengeance. If you say "Well, I remember that you
wouldn't lend to me when I asked but I'll lend to you", that's bearing
a grudge. Not doing these things is a hard standard to live up to
sometimes, and there's the question whether one should/can/may treat
everyone in the world like this or as many as one can, or what.