Red Green wrote:

If you can't work this out how are you gonna work out the hundreds of
non-trivial stuff to come? Seriously!

Accept her as-is. She will not change to your way later.
The only person you can chage is yourself.

If those two things are unacceptable to you, maybe you should pass on
this one.

A man thinks the woman he marries will never change; she will. A woman
thinks she can change the man she marries; she can't.

There are exceptions. To the common female complaint: "Why are all the good
men married?", the answer is simple: it's marriage that makes them good!