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mm wrote:

On Wed, 27 Feb 2008 23:36:02 -0800, Smitty Two
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mm wrote:



She wrote this letter only to you? If so, forget about it,

Yes, to me, although she cc'd my g.f. and promised to send a copy to

I guess I should have asked "She sent this letter only to you?"
That's what I meant. So even if she only commented on you, or only
addressed you, in the letter, that she sent it to your g.f. puts it in
my second category.

If the g.f. doesn't believe any of the bad stuff, or thinks it isn't
bad, which seems to be through or she wouldn't have showed it to the
other man, that means I guess thta you haven't sufffered much harm
(unless contrary to your gf's expectations, the man thought less of
you after reading the letter.

But regardless of what she and he actually thought after reading the
letter, it was iiuc clearly the agent's intention that the gf should
think less of you. And that's where the problem lies.

Well, if she wanted my g.f. to think less of me, she missed the mark.
The g.f.'s reaction was one of abject horror that the woman could be so
vicious and nuts.


the gentleman who referred me to her. (a promise that did not
materialize, but the gentleman was horrified when my g.f. showed the
letter to him later)




If she sent a copy to someone else, and harmed you in some way, please
give more details.



Sticks and stones can break your bones, but words addressed only to
you can't hurt you. What is it that happened that has you so
outrages?

That is a very thoughtful question, and one I have deliberated on a bit
already. More will no doubt be revealed. But, I will tell you that the
letter was outrageous, (so why would I not be outraged?)

That doesn't help me understand. What is it that makes the letter
outrageeous?


How silly of me to think you'd let me get away with a circular argument.
All right, for those clamoring for more details:

I wrote a long, well-thought out, well-crafted letter of introduction to
the woman. The g.f. lives 300 miles away, in a city where it may be a
good time to buy investment property. We intend to buy something, rent
it out for a few years, and then sell, hopefully at a nice profit.

But, I'm not intimately familiar with the real estate situation there.
So in my letter of introduction, I told her who we were, what we were
looking for, and acknowledged my ignorance on several points. I also
told her I would be there in less than two weeks, and wanted to look at
several houses, as well as discuss various strategies, etc.

She wrote a nice letter back, and then a follow-up single sentence two
days later, asking whether we had decided to work with her. I phoned
her, got her voice mail, and said yes. The g.f. wrote her an email, also
saying yes, and asked to set up a preliminary appt. to meet her, show
her some printouts of listings we were interested in seeing (based on
drive-bys), and also get her feedback on some questionable
neighborhoods, and suggestions of other homes that might fit our bill.

Five days elapsed, and she had not contacted my g.f. for an appt. I sent
her a polite email, saying I hoped she was just busy and hadn't broken a
leg or anything. She phoned me, and I asked her to phone my g.f. to set
up the preliminary meeting. She agreed to do so, and I gave her the
phone number at her request, although she had it already. We agreed to
see houses on Friday.

Two more days elapsed, and no call to the g.f. By this time, I was due
to arrive there in about 48 hours. I wrote and said: "We need someone
more responsive, and will look for someone less busy. Please cancel our
appt. for Friday."

Her next email was short and polite, if hinting at a bit of surprise,
and maybe a tiny bit defensive. I wrote and said that I didn't think she
should be surprised, given the five day delay followed by the two day
delay. She wrote two more emails of modest protest but no particular
significance, which I ignored.

Then the bombshell, in which she meticulously dissected my first
introductory email, insulting me at every sentence. It was sarcastic,
snotty, condescending, and ridiculing, filled with CAPITALS and many
exclamation points
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!

She told me repeatedly what an expert she is, and how much praise she
gets, and how many banks she works with, and how it's people like her
who are working 13 hours/day to save the economy, and how few days off
she's had,

It ended with her advising me that she was putting me on her "do not
ever call me again" list, since I had treated her poorly (!) and that I
was forever forbidden from calling her, and how much fun she had writing
this diatribe, and that she was gonna sleep like a baby.

That is my definition of "outrageous," with which you may or may not
agree. But trust me, the picture I paint above is woefully inadequate. I
do find one thing amusing, though. The woman cannot spell "bankrupt,"
and she cannot spell "professional."